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May 25, 2010


I had a department chair who loved to use the "several other people" line, too. It was such a wimpy, passive aggressive way to communicate. Sorry you had to go through that, and glad you're feeling better today. (And yes, that wimpy chair made me cry once, too...)

I'm so glad you're feeling better. I have similar issues in getting all upset over stuff. I just can't help it. If I'm angry, I cry. If I'm upset, I cry. Almost any extreme emotion sends me to tears. It's very difficult not to let other's issues affect you, and to me, these people have their own issues to deal with and are projecting them/taking them out on you. Sending you virtual hugs!

Just catching up on this situation ... I'm so sorry you had to deal with this criticism but the more you learn about the back story the more it sounds like a pretty weak critique, having more to do with your chair's insecurities than with your "bossiness"? (Since when is being bossy a bad thing? Oh yeah, since there were girls.)

Anyway, despite the tears, it seems like you've come out of this with a better understanding of the dynamics at your school -- and confident you've got the full support of your Dean. Pretty good stuff.

Hang in there -- summer is right around the corner -- and you'll have plenty of time to forget all about this.

Weighing in late just to send virtual hugs your way and to wish you a happy slide into summer. I like the way all this is resolving. Your chair sounds like a bit of a dip, but not in a way that's completely unworkable. Your dean sounds like a good egg, and Mr. Z--well, you'll figure out how to work with him. He sounds like a limited person; no surprise, in a way, that he would be unsettled by working with someone of your energy and clarity. Oh well, let's just say you're better suited to deal with the challenges of working with him than he is to the challenges of working with you! Hope you are having a good weekend.

I'm so behind on the blogosphere, and just got to this. I'm so sorry you have been dealing with this crap! One of the reasons I haven't been blogging as much is that I have had several very similar experiences, and had to resort to a locked LJ to talk about them, because the Provost reads my blog. Anyway, sending hugs and reassurance!

I'm only reading this because you linked. I don't think I saw this when it first posted. But I totally hear that "I've heard from a few people" thing now and again at school and I do think it's lame and passive aggressive and makes it sound like there's something when there isn't nothing.

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