One of the things that I did this summer is to wrap up my relationship with my therapist. I've been working with her for almost four years, and she has helped me so much. We've talked about family, profession, friendships, and health. I'm a calmer, more grounded, happier person now than I was four years ago, and she deserves a lot of the credit for it.
She's like no therapist I've ever known: big hair, big jewelry, high heels, strong Adventure City accent, messy office, sort of a woo-woo sense of the universe, and really outspoken in sharing her own opinions. Completely the opposite of the genteel blank slate I've had in previous therapists, but pretty fabulous in her way. She positioned herself as fiercely on my side in any conflict or trouble I talked about; it felt extraordinary to have such a feisty partisan rooting for me.
For the last six-plus months, however, I've honestly struggled to come up with stuff to talk about in my therapy sessions. Indeed, post-spring break, we moved to biweekly sessions. My decision to change our schedule was inspired by the psychologist who came to FGS for our faculty development day right after spring break. As an aside -- not really part of her main topic at all -- she commented that one goal of therapy is to internalize the voice of one's therapist. And I sat there in the auditorium and lost the thread of her presentation for a few minutes as I realized that I had indeed internalized my therapist's voice. I regularly give myself the advice I know she'd give me, and it helps very much.
And then recently we switched to just a couple of monthly sessions, agreeing that this summer was sort of a wrapping-up time of our relationship. Our last appointment was a celebration of our relationship and my well-being, with lots of "You're so great." "No, YOU'RE so great." She reminded me that I can always call her again if I need to, and I certainly know that's true.
Ending therapy (or at least this current iteration of it) is one of the big things that I did this summer, and probably the one that I'll talk least about!