Things got risky there for a while: the first two grocery stores I went to were sold out of black-eyed peas! I came home to search our pantry more thoroughly before driving to a couple more grocery stores, and fortunately I found half a bag of dried black-eyed peas at the back of a shelf. New Year's Day saved!
D. actually dislikes black-eyed peas, as well as most other beans -- it's a texture thing -- so we disguise them in spicy turkey chili so that she's eating her black-eyed peas for good luck without being too much aware of it.
I also got back to the gym today; it had been more than two weeks since I was there, what with my dental surgery and then going out of town to visit family. I had to work myself up quite a bit to get to the gym, but once I was there it felt really good to be exercising again.
So all in all it's shaped up to be a pretty good, if uneventful, start to the new year -- exactly what I wanted.
Here's my resolution for 2014: Live the life I want to be living.
That is, I'm resolving to fight my habit of thinking, "As soon as thus-and-such happens, then I can really relax and start living the life I want." To wit:
- Instead of thinking that my writing life will be clearer once the Head of School finally makes up her mind about the FGS history project, so I'll know if I'm writing that or something else, why don't I just write what I want to be writing?
- Instead of spending energy wondering what will happen when the regular department chair returns from sabbatical -- Will the administration ask me to take on the chair role instead, given my obvious superiority in fulfilling the role? If not, what will I do instead to make up my full teaching load? In what way will things be awkward? -- I'll just deal with what's on my plate this year and assume that things will work out fairly well next year, which I think is a safe assumption.
- The hardest part in all of this is not putting life on hold until D. has a job. But really, we're both doing what we can on that front, and there's no use acting as though life will begin after she's employed; her professional journey has had so many ups and downs -- mostly downs -- for several years now, but obviously we've been living during that time, so let's just call it "life" and move on, recognizing that we're forging a life for ourselves in the meantime and will continue to do so after she is employed.
So there's my resolution: Live the life I want to be living.